One of the many lessons I received from my Shaman Teacher about relationships is that two people can connect on three different levels when looking for a romantic relationship: the physical, emotional, and purpose levels.
All romantic relationships start with physical attraction. But it’s not a given that the connection will develop and reach the other two levels. In the same way, if there is an emotional connection, the lovers do not necessarily need to connect on the physical level or share the same purpose in life.
What is often confusing for two people engaging in a new romantic relationship is how it will develop and “where it’s going.” This question may emerge after the first couple of months together.
Very often, people assume that if they connect on a physical level, they will also connect emotionally and eventually build a life together. While this can happen, and the two may discover they share emotional depth and a common purpose, it should not be taken for granted.
In many cases, a person who feels a strong attraction at the beginning of a romantic connection may start fantasizing about a future together. However, reality may reveal that their partner has not developed the same emotions or is not interested in something more lasting. This does not mean there is something wrong with either person or that one is rejecting the other.
To put it simply, a relationship will evolve beyond physical attraction only if both partners speak the same emotional language – how they share, express, and manage emotions, and how they love. It will develop even further into a long-lasting relationship only if they share not just common interests but also a similar outlook on life and a common purpose. A very typical reason relationships end after years together is that one partner wants a family while the other does not.
It can also happen that the partners’ purpose and life choices may change even after having built a family together, because let’s face it – life is a constant flow of change and people change too.
Although trying to calculate these dynamics from the beginning might take the magic out of relationships, the experiences we gain from different connections, where we bond on different levels, are invaluable. Each relationship offers lessons that shape our understanding of love and ourselves. It is important to keep this in mind and not put pressure on relationships that are only meant to last a few months or years. Some connections are not failures; they are simply part of our growth.
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